Middle aged gay
Gay Midlife Crisis: It’s a Thing
Therapists don’t often give their own life stories. Our focus is on you, not us. But sometimes what we’ve learned from our personal challenges can inspire our clients. So here goes.
A couple of years ago my life looked great. In fact, some would explain it has “gay heaven.” I really did possess it good. I had:
a wonderful LGBTQ relationship of 25 years (and the sex was still good)
a great apartment in San Francisco (and a view)
loving friends and family (with people I could inform anything)
an adorable dog (I am not being biased — everyone said she was the cutest canine ever)
meaningful work as an LGBTQ therapist (and a full practice)
the appropriate amount of money saved for retirement for a person of my age (that’s what the financial planner said)
good health and a super cute trainer. (No photos available)
It doesn’t earn much better than that, right? And yet, I surprised myself when suddenly I wasn’t happy and sometimes slightly depressed.
I didn’t understand it. I had already done years of personal work with therapy, workshops, reading, yog
What No One Tells You About Being A Middle-Aged Gay
Embracing aging as a gay man can be an overwhelming and liberating experience&#;
By Jumol Royes
Gay customs is youth obsessed. That’s not breaking news.
Yet not even the gay glitterati have figured out how to stop the hereditary clock and put a halt to the aging process.
I turned 40 recently and was forced to reckon with the superb expectations this birthday is burdened with. After remembering that birthdays are simply temporal markers that we use to remind ourselves, and each other, that we’re still here taking up space, I got to thinking about all the things no one tells you about becoming a middle-aged gay man.
For starters, you don’t collect an email or mobile notification reminding you to change your Grindr tags and tribes from twink, twunk or cub to bear, daddy or zaddy, for those of you with a little extra swagger in your step.
Planning to meet up for drinks with a guy from the dating app? Be prepared to possibly spend more money than you accounted for when you discover that you’re not only respons
Gay Men in Mid-Life: Now What?
You bought the condo. You got the career. You might even have the partner. You came out. You made friends. You saved for retirement.
You took the trip. You ate the food. You posted the photos.
And yet, you wonder: Is this all there is?
For many of us, these are the experiences of gay men at midlife.
We expend the first half of our lives doing and striving. And when most of the goals are met, we feel lost and disappointed.
Everyone talks about getting, but no one talks about what happens after you get it. It doesn’t come across right to object about having a lot.
If we dash away from this discomfort we may end up with too many hangovers, too much hour on the internet, or too many disappointing hook ups.
Things get interesting if we stay curious about this uncomfortable experience of “blah”. Underneath the boredom or light depression is a affluent world of feelings and a modern vision waiting to be discovered.
For most men, the first half of existence is about building a life and building the planet. The external takes most of our energy and commitment.
In the s
Gay Life after 40
Hello, my entitle is William Smith, the founder of Gay Life After
Our motto is &#;Keep Aging Forward.&#;
I grew up in Kenosha, Wisconsin, between Milwaukee and Chicago. I worked and lived in Chicago for approximately 20 years.
We hold two online platforms:
The first is a Facebook Group called Same-sex attracted Life after It’s a personal group for gay men over
I was inspired to begin this Group after seeing a void in presenting ourselves and having meaningful discussions in our age group. I was opposed to middle-aged men uploading images of themselves when as adults, they were at an age where their experiences had substance and dialogue.
Gay Life After 40 has 42, members and is growing rapidly. It has turn into one of the largest lgbtq+ Facebook groups in the region. We want men to interact with each other, learn, request questions, and engage. We complete not talk about politics. Everything else is ok.
To generate provocative discussions within the group, I spend time with other men to understand their thoughts and questions, which allows